Posts filed under: Relationships

Let me take a wild guess… You’ve lost some friends on your grief journey. How did I know? Because it happens to the best of us. We all had friends who claimed to “be there” for us in any number of ways and just didn’t keep their promises. I’m sure...
Do you apologize too much? Say “I’m sorry” when you aren’t really sorry or have nothing to be sorry for? My 15-year-old asked me several months ago, “Why are you always saying sorry?” Teenage boys barely notice that the sun came up today. But my son noticed how often I...
Short and Sweet Summary: Being a solo parent is exhausting on so many levels. The weight of every decision lies squarely with the only parent, decision-maker, and fixer of things. Sometimes I confess it all to heave that bulky, distressing weight right off my shoulders.  No one said parenting is...
Do you need a little inspiration to start dating again? Think you’ll never find love again or it isn’t worth the effort to even try? Do you believe in finding love in unlikely places? If you’ve made the excuses, rationalized the hell out of every reason you aren’t entitled to a...
Short and Sweet Summary: It’s impossible for people who’ve never experienced a traumatic loss to imagine the aftermath. This is what I didn’t know about widowhood until I became a widow. I think you’ll agree with me when I say that it’s impossible for people who’ve never experienced a traumatic...
Dating in the widow world is rife with doubts. There’s the grief. Good god, the grief. And the feeling of “cheating” on your husband. No, you didn’t forget he’s dead. It’s just that, well, it’s confusing how you were married and now you’re not but you didn’t get divorced, he just...
Short and Sweet Summary: The confusion that follows you around every day is part of learning to adjust to a new reality. It’s really freaking hard to go from one reality to another completely different reality and expect it to be a smooth transition. Living in a parallel universe is...
Short and Sweet Summary: For years after my husband’s death, I only remembered his charming, likable characteristics in an effort to honor his soul. To make his time on Earth mean something. My dead husband’s position on the perfection pedestal rose higher and higher while I sunk deeper into negative...
Short and Sweet Summary: Our kids are learning life’s greatest lessons at an earlier age than most. Although we’d love to protect our kids from heartache and pain, adversity really does breed character. Bad things happen to good people all the time. We can’t prevent the hardships in our lives...