Posts filed under: Well-Being

Short and Sweet Summary: It’s about time you started taking care of you. Forget about everyone else for just a minute and focus on making yourself a priority. It’s not difficult, costly or even time-consuming if you try these unusual but significant self-care ideas for widows. Do you love you?...
How many times have you compared your grief journey to another widow’s and thought, “damn…I’m not half as with it as she is?” Let’s see…ummm…(counts on fingers)…lots? I’ve done it. We’ve all done it. It’s like when you feel overwhelmed and out of sorts, why not compare yourself to others and...
Do you apologize too much? Say “I’m sorry” when you aren’t really sorry or have nothing to be sorry for? My 15-year-old asked me several months ago, “Why are you always saying sorry?” Teenage boys barely notice that the sun came up today. But my son noticed how often I...
Grief is a cluster-fuck of whacked out emotions. Seriously, it’s a shit show. When your spouse dies and your world becomes a jigsaw puzzle with missing pieces that will never, ever fit back together, it’s excruciatingly hard to accept your new normal. Grief is hard work. But sometimes widows fall...
You know the people who think they’ve got it all figured out? The ones who spew out tired cliches like, “time heals all wounds” and “every cloud has a silver lining.” You know who I’m talking about? Those who, in their attempts at profound wit in finding the silver lining...
Short and Sweet Summary:  There’s no mystery to maximizing your potential. If you’ve been hiding from your life, now’s the time to step out. You’ll be amazed at the opportunities that present themselves when you engage with the world. Half the battle is just showing up.  It’s a familiar story...
Do you have competing voices in your head? Do your brain and heart have something different to say about everyday occurrences? Or is it just me? The voices that compete for my attention these days are my brain, my heart, and my gut. Because I’ve been traumatized by my husband’s death,...
Short and Sweet Summary: The confusion that follows you around every day is part of learning to adjust to a new reality. It’s really freaking hard to go from one reality to another completely different reality and expect it to be a smooth transition. Living in a parallel universe is...
Short and Sweet Summary: Guilt is an unnecessary byproduct of grief. If you feel doubt. shame, self-judgment or blame yourself for any number of things that you think you should have done differently, you’ve experienced widow guilt. It’s time to let that shit go. Make no mistake about it… You’re...