Posts filed under: Well-Being

Short and Sweet Summary: We widows don’t need help finding the silver lining in most situations, but sometimes we want to cry like a two-year-old and throw a temper tantrum instead. You go ahead and do you. You know the people who think they’ve got it all figured out? The...
Short and Sweet Summary:  There’s no mystery to maximizing your potential. If you’ve been hiding from your life, now’s the time to step out. You’ll be amazed at the opportunities that present themselves when you engage with the world. Half the battle is just showing up.  It’s a familiar story...
Short and Sweet Summary: Do you have competing voices in your head, like me? The voices in my head have a very specific job to do. Their job is to keep me safe. And they take their job very seriously. Do you have competing voices in your head? Do your brain...
Short and Sweet Summary: The confusion that follows you around every day is part of learning to adjust to a new reality. It’s really freaking hard to go from one reality to another completely different reality and expect it to be a smooth transition. Living in a parallel universe is...
Short and Sweet Summary: Guilt is an unnecessary byproduct of grief. If you feel doubt. shame, self-judgment or blame yourself for any number of things that you think you should have done differently, you’ve experienced widow guilt. It’s time to let that shit go. Make no mistake about it… You’re...
Short and Sweet Summary: Even though some days it’s hard to determine whether or not you’re bat-shit crazy, there’s one indisputable reason to put your fears to rest. Crazy people don’t typically qualify whether or not they’re crazy. So, I have this deep, guttural voice that emerges when I’ve reached...
Short and Sweet Summary: Grief has something to tell you and something to show you. You can’t outrun grief and you don’t get to decide when it pays a visit. But, you must invite grief in when it comes knocking. It’s the only way. My husband was diagnosed with terminal...
Short and Sweet Summary: When the sky is falling and hysteria takes over your brain, train yourself to stop overthinking the worst-case scenario like Chicken Little. How about trying not to believe everything you’re told instead? Has this happened to you? You’re going along all fine and dandy, smiling, maybe...
Short and Sweet Summary: For years after my husband’s death, I only remembered his charming, likable characteristics in an effort to honor his soul. To make his time on Earth mean something. My dead husband’s position on the perfection pedestal rose higher and higher while I sunk deeper into negative...