Short and Sweet Summary: Love and Pain have coexisted since the dawn of time. You’ll change your life when you learn how to embrace pain instead of running from it. “DO NOT IGNORE ME,” it shouts through the door. “I will keep coming back until you acknowledge me.” Pain is...

Grief is hard to handle, isn’t it? We can’t quantify it, measure it or fix it. No guidebook exists for how to get through it. Yet we feel like grief is something we should instinctively know how to manage. Society teaches us to “get over” our grief in a reasonable...

Short and Sweet Summary: Questionable communication and social skills are on display when you come across some of the astonishing things people say to grieving widows. Don’t you wish people said nothing at all rather than blurt out some of these zingers? Have you ever come across those folks who,...

Short and Sweet Summary: When you’re grieving, doing even mundane things takes extra effort. But what about the not-so-mundane things? The things you can’t necessarily check off on a to-do list? Because managing grief and loss requires stamina and internal fortitude, don’t sabotage your efforts by forgetting to do these...

Short and Sweet Summary: Sometimes you just don’t feel very grateful for things that are happening in your life right now and that’s perfectly normal. You’d rather stick a hot needle in your eye than try to write out a much-lauded gratitude list. When you’re ready to stop feeling bad...

Short and Sweet Summary: I’ve been in denial about how much control we really have. Life isn’t predictable. It’s a series of unforeseen events that happen regardless of my planning and preparation. Some things are in my control. Most things aren’t. Do you have a white-knuckle grip on control like...

Short and Sweet Summary: Grief support groups won’t erase the crushing pain. But they will give you a place to validate your feelings and make your grief less isolating. Several grief support options for widows are available if you know where to look. Grief support was a monumental part of...

Short and Sweet Summary: The problem with relying on others to buoy our spirits or tell us what to do is that we relinquish all our internal power. The words of wisdom you think you need from someone else won’t bring the peace you seek. The words you need to...

Short and Sweet Summary: Hindsight is always 20/20. Looking back now, I can see important lessons of widowhood that weren’t clear to me in the beginning. Here’s my take on how much I’ve learned since then. Perhaps you can apply these lessons now and learn them far earlier than I...